THE DAVIS FAMILY: Our Son Spencer

Friday, March 19, 2010

Our Son Spencer

I wanted to share something so dear to me and Daniel about our youngest son Spencer. we just found out that our son as asperger's which is high functioning autism. its been really difficult to find out that your child that you love so unconditionally has a disorder that can't be cured. words can't describe how i feel or how my husband feels about this. its so heartbreaking that we have to see Spencer struggle with the rest of his life with this. as a mother and being told that your son has a serious developmental delay and that he has problems functioning like a normal child and that he has to be medicated is very hard to hear. I'm struggling with this so much and i'm hurting inside. i just wish i could take this problem away that Spencer has so he can live a normal life like his brother and sister get to have. His asperger's is being managed and taken care of it just hurts to know he will have to go through all of this for the rest of his life and that scares us so much. we love our son so much and no mother ever wants to see any of their children suffer and i'm one of those mothers that have to watch my son suffer through life even when hes medicated and getting the help he needs cause it will always be there to haunt him as he grows up. i want to do so much for my baby and give him the best life i can cause that is how much he means to me and Daniel. its not fair whats happening with Spencer but we love him and will always be here for him no matter what and that is what truly matters. Its going to be a struggle but we are both loving and strong parents that we will make it easy for him to get through with what ever it takes. and now being a mother with a son that has autism words can't describe what an amazing son Spencer is to me and how much i love him and that i'm here for him. To the mothers out there that have a special needs child my heart goes out to you and your family and your in my heart. its so hard for us right now and we know its going to take a lot of effort to get through this but i have faith that we will cause that is who we are. To us our son is not a label he is our child and we love him dearly and would never treat him like a label just cause he has autism, he is still a human being and our baby boy. To all my family out there thank you for being here for us and for loving Spencer, and we love you. Mommy and Daddy love you very much Spencer and never forget that!!!

No comments:

Back on that special day!

Spencers Birth April 27 2004 Today was a wonderful day for daniel and i. We are going to have another boy and its our last. We have been trying for a week now to bring spencer into the world. He just wouldn't come. Our doctor who was dr.cox said that i was dialated to a 2 and the next visit a 3 this baby was on the way but didn't want to come out yet. We got lots of stuff for spencer from everyone. My mother of course bought spencer alot of clothes, and toys and even moved us in her new apartment at pheasant ridge. it was a lovely start for us and spencer in a new home. Spencer had a big room full of toys and crib and tons of boy clothes, and bedding. We were ready to have the baby. well our doctor called us and said that he put us on a waiting list to get induced at the hospital. So everytime the phone rang we were hoping it was the hospital. well on tuesday the 27th the hospital called and told us to come in and that were having a baby today. I have never seen daniel so happy, He literally jumped out of bed and screamed were having our baby and rushed me to the car and drove to the hospital. We called my mother and dad. They said that they will be on their way. I was so excited, spencers coming today. We got upstairs to labor and delivery and they got me all ready for the birth. I was given pitocin, and then the nurse told the doctor to come here, i was scared for a minute cause i wanted to know what was wrong, it was funny i was already in labor when i got there. spencer finally picked a day he wanted to come. I was given the epidural this time and i was in heaven after it kicked in. Everyone said that i was sleeping through the labor until i was ready to push. Spencer didn't come very quickly, it took almost a hour to push him out. I remember daniel and my mother helping me through it all, finally the last push happened and spencer was here. i cried so much. I was so happy to see him finally. daniel was crying to and so were my parents. Spencer was 7lbs 8oz and 21 inches long, he had alot of hair to. he was so beautiful. i was so happy to have him here in my arms finally. i will never forget this day.